Manifesting True Success Day 19: Success Is Without Judgement Danielle Rogers April 3, 2015 Enlightenment, Spirituality, Uncategorized, Words of Wisdom Manifesting True Success is a 21-Day Guided Meditation created by Oprah Winfrey & Deepak Chopra, to learn more click here. “If we listened to our intellect, we’d never have a love affair… or go into business. You’ve got to jump off cliffs and build your wings on the way down.” -Annie Dillard Today’s meditation is about learning to let go of negative judgment about others and yourself. When we judge, we are resisting life and blocking the flow of existence. It’s not that we need to pretend there aren’t problems, difficult people, and flaws within our personalities. There certainly are. But if we learn to focus our attention on the positive features that are emerging, then we will be encouraging that unfolding potential, instead of giving more attention to the imperfections and strengthening them. Being non-judgmental means being your truest self, following your unique path in life while cooperating and working in harmony with the universe. This is the aim of today’s meditation. CENTERING THOUGHT: I find my success without judging others or myself. SANSKRIT MANTRA: Karuna Hum (I open my consciousness to Universal compassion.) Manifesting True Success is a 21-Day Guided Meditation created by Oprah Winfrey & Deepak Chopra, to learn more click here. 1.) Judgment a major block to success is often unconscious, therefore we need to take an honest look at judgment. How are you judgmental with others? How are you making their decisions and behavior wrong or somehow bad? Due to the fact that I have empath like tendencies, I tend to be more sensitive to a lot of energies. Sometimes even when I don’t want or care to, I can see and sense the true essence of people no matter what they may say or put out into the world. If you are not in tune with yourself or have ways to remain grounded being an empath can be a very tricky thing. Couple that with the fact that sometimes being an empath or not, you can just see through people. Their walk may not match their talk or maybe their insecurities ooze through everything they do despite their efforts to project confidence and charisma into the world. What I have come to find through my own personal experiences is that it’s not my job to “fix” people. It is also not my job to point out their flaws or discrepancies no matter how obvious or indiscrete they might be. Sometimes we can judge others and not even know it just by simply forming an unwanted or unsolicited opinion on their life. We have all judged others and we all still have the tendency to do so daily be it a minuscule thing or someone who’s life is in complete shambles (also our personal opinion). My judgement of others usually comes in the form of criticism or an opinion based on something I feel that leads me to think that I know what’s best for them. Now although I may feel I know, I have to remind myself that I’m not fully aware of their journey, their inner battles, and the things internally passed on to them via ancestry or their upbringing. Although we all have the power and ability to change our lives, some of do not have the tools, courage, or have not been broken enough to make the shift. I have to constantly remind myself that this is okay and all of our journeys are uniquely our own. 2.) How are you judgmental with yourself? Write down the ways you may be subtly, or not so subtly, judging yourself harshly. I am judgmental with myself in a few ways but not nearly as much as I once was. Insecurities can be self inflicted or things that are retained due to the fact that you are not strong enough in knowing who you are, therefore the outside world has the ability to shape your perception of self. I have been insecure, broken, lost, and just unsure of myself so many times for so many different reasons. Looking back over time most of my insecurities stemmed from pain that I was harboring deep inside that I assumed would disappear if it were suppressed and ignored long enough. I could not have been more wrong. If anything the effects of my attempts of suppressing my pain only gave it a dark space to grow and latch on to other areas of my life only to rear its ugly head at the most inopportune times. These days my judgments of myself come in the form of work and relationships. My self image is fine because I know that at any given time if there is something I want to change or improve I have the ability to do so. At some point in my life when I made a ton of poor financial decisions that caused me to have to rebuild my life from the ground up I was very judgmental of myself and my possessions or the lack thereof. This was only because I was in the process of finding myself and in order to find myself I had to be rid of attachment to form and the identity my possessions created for me in my eyes and in the eyes of the world. When you don’t know yourself your identity can be tied to many things such as relationships (especially toxic ones), possessions, or a persona that you have created. It can even come from a persona that others have created for you that you merely adopted. These days my judgements are, am I working hard enough? Am I making the right decisions? Are my decisions worth these perceived losses I have been facing over the course of the past few years? Am I being insensitive to the plights and journeys of others? Am I selfish because I choose to not deal with certain things based on how they affect my personal journey? 3.) To help free yourself and others from judgment, recognize that everyone is making the best decisions they know how to with the awareness they have at the time. Think about someone you know whose actions seem negative to you, and write down ways in which that person may believe what they are doing will bring them happiness. People that I have found or find myself judging as of late aren’t even the people who are living their lives in a complete state of chaos but more so people who seem to be finding their way which seems completely backwards I know. I realize we all have to experience life and undergo some form of trial and error to realize who we are and what our purpose is. However, my current problem is finding the discrepancy in one’s personal life in comparison to the efforts they are attempting to manifest “professionally”. Part of my problem is also the fact that I am highly observant, I notice behavioral patterns. I study people and I feel people. Although I may know or feel I know a path or position isn’t for someone, I also have to remind myself that I reached my destination through trial and error. It does not matter if they are copying things they see online or creating personas that are mirrored after someone else, that is their journey. So no matter if their attempts or efforts bring them success or not, it’s a lesson waiting along the way for them. 4.) Daily Reflection: It’s not my business what other people do with their lives. It’s not my place to feel any type of way about what other people do in their lives. I may be further on my path than I once was but there was a time when I wasn’t where I am. I have embarrassed myself publicly and I have made mistakes privately but those are things I had to go through in order to become the person I am today. No matter what a person does, be it genuine or self serving, it is not my business. Their actions do not hold any weight over my life and my purpose. What is for me is for me and no one can hinder my manifestation but myself and I do so by being judgmental of others. Affirmed: I am free from judgement; be it self inflicted, directed towards me, or attempting to manifest in regards to others. Everyone is doing the best they can with what they have and if the path they are on is not for them then there is a lesson waiting for them along the way. I cannot play “God” and protect people from themselves because God gives us free reign in order to learn and become one with our true selves. If others blatantly choose to make poor decisions I have no place or right to judge them but I have every right to not allow them to be an active part of my life. When I feel judgment arise in me, I breathe and consider the source. I then look at myself to see what could possibly be inside of me that relates to the “discourse” I feel in regards to others. It is not my job to force my opinions or mentalities on anyone. My opinions are my own and the best way to spark change in others is to continuously walk in faith and lead by example. My message will speak to those it resonates with and vice versa. Simply put, it is not my job to identify intent or determine the level of sincerity in people’s actions. If people want to sell their souls for attention, I wish them a safety net. If people wish to use others for their selfish gains I pray a change of heart comes over them. Attempting to assess the lives of others is only slowing down my process and opening me up for the same criticisms. I am free from judgement coming or going. I accept people for who they are and I have the free will to deal with them on any level or none at all. I hold the power and ability to do what’s best for me by choosing to allow what I take in virtually and on a day to day basis. Manifesting True Success is a 21-Day Guided Meditation created by Oprah Winfrey & Deepak Chopra, to learn more click here.